We Fell In Love Online♥

I am now 22 and he is 29. We live together and are engaged, Im from Minnesota, He is from Kansas. Sorry for this story being so long. This covers a span of 7 years. 

I still vaguely rember the first day we met online. We where both in a yahoo anime chatroom and (in a playful way) he sat on my head (like an anime cat or animal would do to an anime person). Because I let him roleplay sit on my head, he imed me. The first few months All we did was roleplay together. We never got to know each other until one night when I just wasnt feeling up to roleplaying. We got to know each other that night. I found out his name was George and he was 22. We talked and talked almost every night, I didn’t have a cell phone and neither did he, so we just waited for the other to get online every night and stayed up way too late talking. 

After a whole summer of talking we realized we had feelings for each other.  Well school came around and we where talking less and less. I got grounded from the computer for quite a bit (because of bad grades)  and we lost contact. Well one night after I was finally allowed back on the computer he happened to IM me again.  We continued talking for a few months.My parents found out, and didnt want me talking to a guy so much older than me. They took away all my computer free time. I would sneak off early to school to talk to him on the computers in the computer lab early in the morning. But eventually he lost his internet and my parents found out again. We where forced to stop talking completely. 

It was years before we spoke again. I had fallen in love with him and He had fallen in love with me.  Even though my heart was broken I still dated other people.My first real life boyfriend was when I was 17.  But none of them really ever filled that hole in my heart. One night after I had broke up with my last boyfriend. I logged onto Yahoo messenger on my laptop. Not really looking for anyone. I was 19 years old. 

 then he IMed me. Asking if it was really me and if I remembered him. Of course. We caught up on what has been happening with each other. Then he told me he still had feelings for me. I told him I still liked him too but I didnt want to rush into any sort of relationship yet, I was still trying to get over the breakup and the death of my grandma all at the same time. He comforted me and understood. 

But that didnt stop him from jokingly (but some what serious) asking me out every night. We talked for about 2 months before I finally said yes to him asking me out.  November 8th 2010 is our anniversary. 

We made plans to meet. I told him the best time would be in the spring when I had my tax returns so I could buy a bus ticket.  I was living with my bestfriend at the time and had no job, in short I was a complete bum. He was taking care of his dying mother and couldnt leave her alone for too long. 

We talked every night, got on webcam a few times together but everytime we saw each other we where too nervous to talk much. Finally May 31st 2011 I left for Kansas on bus. My bestfriend waving me off and telling me to be careful. 

Yes, I left on my own, with out anyone but my best friend knowing, and by myself. I would have done things differently had it been anyone else, but we had been talking on and off since I was 15 years old so I trusted him pretty well. 

I remeber arriving in Kansas, my heart was pounding it was very hot out but I was hiding myself in a black hoodie and sitting on my bag with my knees to my chest. 

Then he appeared around the corner and i thought my heart stopped. 

He asked me if I was Jennifer, I said yes. He told me he was George. He walked me to his car and drove to McDonalds. Where he had a soda and I had a chocolate milkshake. We where both too nervous to talk much. But after his nerves had calmed down a bit he brought me to his house where he lived with his mother. We sat in his room and watched a movie, but I still couldnt get over how nervous I was. 

We walked together to a park afterwards, and he told me I was alot prettier in real life, just alot shorter then he expected. (Im 5’2” he is 6’1”) Things just went from there, we slowly got more comfortable with each other. I liked his mother she was nice. Before I knew it a month had passed In Kansas, and my parents hadnt heard or seen me in a month. 

I decided to make the call, told them I had went to Kansas to meet a guy, that I was safe, and if I wanted to come back at anytime he would pay for my ticket back. They where worried but basically told me I was an adult and I could make my own descions. Just told me to keep in contact with them. To make them feel better I called them once a week so they knew I was ok. 

I ended up never leaving, His mother passed away in August. I wanted to be there for him to comfort him. But we where faced with the descion to move to Minnesota(where I am from) or Missouri (thats where his family is) We decided to move to Missouri. I got a job and we got an apartment together. 

On February 14th 2013 he propsed to me. We had talked about marriage before and he had told me he wanted to marry me but it was never offical offical until now. 

We now are renting a nice house from his dad and planning our wedding and our future together. It was a long journey to where we are now. But I couldnt be happier. 

this was taken christmas 2012

Wefellinloveonline comment:
This is absolutely amazing. Wow. I have no words. My jaw was wide open while reading your story! haha This is incredibly inspiring.. almost like a dream come true. Or a love story from out of a Hollywood film :). Thank you so much for sharing with all of us <3 The success you two have experienced is amazing and is “meant to be” (as cheesy as that sounds haha) :). it’s so beautiful! The love you two share together is truly beautiful. I wish a forever happy and fulfilling future to both of you. This is once again another story that proves how real an online relationship is, and how much it can grow and develop after meeting in person. Feel free to share wedding photos with us if you like :D, all the best :) 

hey there! i’m amanda, better known as the panda on me and my girlfriend’s shared tumblr: thepandathegiraffe. her name is jessica.

we met online about 3 years ago on a forum she was running and became fast friends. we IMed, texted, skyped and messaged on Facebook. i didn’t realize there was such an age gap between us at first because we had so much in common. like down to home life, likes/dislikes, etc. it was crazy. (just so you know, i’m currently 24 and she’s 18 next month.)

anyway we spent that year hanging out and sharing everything really. she was a really great long distance friend.. like a pen pal, almost. in august of 2011 we started talking more regularly (like, daily). and in september, she went to pride with her friends in vegas and i went to a gay club in delaware with my friends. and i got drunk, ha, and made out with some girl and immediately told her about it. she made a comment like “i wish i couldn’t made out with someone here.” and i said “psh, i would’ve made out with you!” and she said “really?” and i said “of course!” haha and pretty much the rest is history. 

we spent the next month texting nonstop and spending hours each night on the phone talking about everything and anything at all. on skype on october 12, 2011, jess asked me to be her girlfriend. and that’s what we’ve been ever since. i met her for the first time in december 2011, and visited again in june and november. we’ve only spent about 3.5 weeks together in person, but this june we’ll be spending about 40 days solid together and couldn’t be more excited. she’s coming to stay at my apartment in new jersey!

we’re trying to make plans to move closer to one another soon, but we have a lot to get through before we can make it happen. keep your fingers crossed for us. :)

anyway, we keep our tumblr updated with stuff about us - we also answer questions and share other peoples’ stories.. so we encourage you to come tell your story to us!

also!! this summer we’re going to be in new york city for pride 2013 and would love to meet some of our tumblr friends!! drop us an ask or shoot us an e-mail for more information.

thanks for reading! xoxo the panda

hey there! it’s amanda the panda of thepandathegiraffe.tumblr.com. we love the ldr community so so so much and wanted to invite everyone to come visit us on our page and share their stories and photos. :) jess and i are a lesbian long distance couple who have been dating since october 2011. she’s in vegas and i’m in jersey, and there’s a chance i may be able to move there next year! for now, we’re counting down the days ‘til june when we can be together again.

we wanted to get to know our followers (and passerby-ers) better and decided we would have a chat room to get better acquainted here soon. so come visit and share your stories! and then keep an eye out for a chatzy link in the next week or so!

thanks guys! xoxo

Jessica and I are a long distance lesbian couple who are 2,491 miles apart. Jess is a 17 year old art student who graduates this summer and is going to college next fall and I (Amanda) am a 24 year old project manager who’s still trying to decide what she wants to be when she grows up. She’s in Nevada and I’m in New Jersey and we met about three years ago on a forum. Jess asked me to be her girlfriend on October 12th, 2011 and I met her for the first time on December 27th, 2011. We’ve been together ever since. We’ve only spent about 3.5 weeks together in person in our entire relationship, but we’re as strong if not stronger than any regular couple.

Our next visit is pretty far out - June 2013. We’re spending the time getting work/school stuff done and making new friends in the LDR community here on tumblr. We love meeting new people and sharing experiences. We’d love to hear from all of you!

http://thepandathegiraffe.tumblr.com

Come visit us and introduce yourselves and/or submit your photos and stories!

Also~ I’m planning a surprise for Jess for Valentine’s Day that I will reveal to her via tumblr. She doesn’t even know that I’m posting this now. Come visit and watch the surprise and reaction unfold! ;D

Much love,

Amanda and Jessica

i’m 23 and she’s 17. i live in new jersey and she lives in nevada. i met her three years ago on a forum that she was running. we started talking on IM, skype, FB, text, etc. but it wasn’t until summer 2011 that we started calling one another on the phone and talking late into the night. our connection was quick and solid. all of the fundamentals of a proper couple were there. we just clicked. we spent the next few months flirting and talking until she finally formally asked me to be hers on october 12th, 2011. we’ve been together since. i met her for the first time in vegas on december 27th.. and have been out to visit two more times since then. we have our struggles.. primarily struggles that are distance related. but we’re good. strong. we’re gonna make it. i love this girl. my giraffe. she’ll be here in jersey for a month this summer, and we’re hoping to work it out for me to move there by next year. for now, we’re taking the distance one day at a time and sharing a tumblr together. come say hi.

http://thepandathegiraffe.tumblr.com/

Me and my boyfriend have been together for over four months, and have never met. We both live in England about four hours away from eachother. He’s 2 years older than me yet we’re literally the same people, we always think the same things, say the same things, like the same things etc.
Both of our parents/families don’t know about eachother because they wouldn’t agree, and that’s one of the hardest things.
We’re hopefully meeting next month, and I’m scared as hell because I know it’s going to be so awkward, we’ve heard eachothers voices and know what eachother look like and we know literally everything about eachother but it’s going to be the most awkward ‘Hi’ ever. 
So far we’ve been so up and down, we’ve broke up for about an hour twice, then both regret it, I’d never say it’s easy, because it isn’t. My friends wonder how I can do it, without the physical contact and just being able to go round eachothers houses and that, but I’ve become used to it, it’ll make it all the more special when we do meet and can finally touch.

I thought I would share my story. I usually don’t like telling people it because there has always been a bad stigma about meeting people online and so usually I just avoid the questions of how my boyfriend and I met, but I think its time to admit and share my story.

I grew up on a farm in a small town in the middle of nowhere. I have always been the kind of person who kept to myself despite my level of popularity. I always thrived for more in life and wanted to get far from the place I grew up that I could. When my family first got Internet when I was 15 (yes I realize the idea of not having Internet your whole life is hard to remember) I instantly became drawn to the idea of a connection to people across the world. At the time, and during all of my highschool years, we only had dial-up Internet so it was slow, but it worked. I soon became a frequent user of the Internet playing online games and chatting in chatrooms. I ended up talking to a guy who had nothing in common with me except for our stubborn, competitive tastes in music. We both liked similar music and found love in knowing the latest and greatest of bands, of course I had far superior tastes. Months went by of this when I learned that this guy’s friend was curious where he was getting all his good music from, leading to him giving his friend my IM account. I began talking to this new guy a lot and found that I had way more in common with him than his friend. Eventually we found ourselves hardly sleeping and making dates of when the other person would be online. He became my best friend, but we both knew that it like more than just a friendship. I became dependent on him and began to need him in my life. We began saying we loved each other and just spent hours and hours of being young and in love. After about a year of this he decided we needed to break it off. He said we were only hurting ourselves, it would be impossible to maintain a real relationship when we lived in different countries (Canada and the United States). I insisted that we could make it work and we could find away. He did not agree and said we both need to move on in life.

I fell deep into depression during this time and cried a lot of the time. I had no one to talk to because no one knew about the relationship besides us. I felt completely alone and the person I usually talked to about my problems was gone. I heard through his friend (which we never mentioned our relationship to) that the guy was dating someone. My heart fell and I knew things were for real and that maybe the whole thing was in my head. Over time I assumed things would get better for me, but my depression only got worse and I didn’t move on. I hadn’t talked to him for months and I later learned his girlfriend didn’t let him talk to me.

Five months had roughly gone by and I wasn’t over him. I had some really negative online relationships during this time, which I learned to be deceitful and full of lies. Through it all I still couldn’t get the guy out of my head. I had new friends during this time and picked up a party lifestyle. The first time I drank was the first time I ever mentioned this mans existence to my friends. Around this time is about the time he started showing up online again, which would always get to me because I’d first get the feeling of happiness to see he is there, only to remember that I couldn’t talk to him and he wasn’t mine. One afternoon he contacted me and I told him I was depressed and just having issues in life. He had completely changed as a person. He and the girl had broke it off, but she had ruined him. He tried to comfort me, but he was nothing like himself and eventually I just snapped at him. I yelled and chewed him out and kept going on and on telling him that he had changed and needs to open his eyes that he is no longer being himself. After I finished my rant I was waiting for him to get mad, but strangely he just agreed with what I said and slowly we began our friendship again.

During this time I was on and off with another guy online who happened to live somewhat near to him (4hours apart roughly). I knew this new guy wasn’t good for me, but at the time I didn’t care. I had just graduated high school and managed to convince my friend that we should go on a road trip to visit both these guys. We planned the whole trip (a 12hour drive or more) in a matter of a couple of days. During this time the guy I loved was stepping up and making plans, while this new guy was flaking out and wasn’t answering most my calls. My friend and I decided to go anyways and told our parents that we went camping near by. We drove over night and drank countless energy drinks while I discussed my stories about these guys and mostly shedding more light on the guy from my past. I slowly as I told the stories realized how much more I seemed to care about him than the new guy I was seeing. We arrived the next day and were meeting the guy from my past first. We had got lost in his city so he was coming to meet up with us to guide us. I’ll be honest I didn’t have a real idea of what the guy looked like too much, but I knew either way if something went bad that he was the kind of person who deeply cared for me. So when I saw him and I thought he was incredibly cute, I couldn’t help, but to not be able to stop smiling. It was the weirdest feeling meeting him, I felt so naked around him. This guy knew everything about me and there he stood in front of me. I can honestly say I have never felt so shy in my life, whenever he would look into my eyes I would awkwardly look away. It felt like he could see all of me. We spent the day together getting food, hanging out at the park and then picking his friend up and we all went to a concert.

My friend and I ended up driving out that night to still meet up with the other guy even though I didn’t know if I was ready to leave, but I knew I didn’t want to fall back into my infatuation. I gave him a photo of me and a mixed CD and was ready to walk out when he asked if I would like a dance before I left. I agreed and what probably should have been awkward, wasn’t. He put on my favorite song and held me close before he kissed my cheek goodbye.

My friend and drove through the night and met up with this new guy and his friend. We drank a little and I could tell the whole time I wanted it to be more, but knew it wasn’t. We hardly talked and mostly sat watching television all the next day.

After the weekend of driving and finally making it back home with no sleep, I felt more confused than ever. The new guy hardly cared for me, when the guy I had loved text to make sure I was ok and left me a message saying he liked getting to see me… The new guy and I obviously didn’t work out in the end, but my friendship with the guy I once loved grew stronger than ever. I had wanted to see him to prove that things can work if you make them work and it must have worked because from that moment on he had changed towards me. We had only been friends, but we were closer than ever.

Six months later in December after my first semester at university. The guy I and were planning another meeting to see each other. I once again lied to my parents saying I was going to a friend’s from university and had my friend from my previous trip come with me to meet up with the guy and his friend. The plan was they were planning to roadtrip down and pick me up and then bring me back with them and then at the end of the week would then drive me back home. My friend was much more worried about this because she wasn’t there and I must admit I must have been crazy, or at least crazy in love. My friend left and made me promise to keep her up to date so that she knew I was safe and so I did. It was a long trip back, but we made it back to where he was and we were all smiling with excitement. The next day we were attending a New Year’s Eve party at some of his friends place. Everything went smooth, though it was kind of awkward because we didn’t have labels and our story was pretty weird. We both for the most part lied to most people about our relationship during the beginning phases. A day later he asked me to be his girlfriend. I hesitated because I knew what kind of work this would mean, but at the same time it wasn’t hard for me to decide. I already couldn’t live without him in my life, things just worked when he was around.

We spent the next 4 years of university battling the long distance and had admitted to all our friends about everything, though our families for the most part have never been directly told of how we met.

It has almost been five years and we have survived it all. Things are perfect and we couldn’t be happier. We both finished our university degrees and have moved across the continent together. We are still dealing with visa stuff and know there will always be distance in our life when it comes to families, but at least from now on I will be getting on planes with him, rather than away from him.

I know my story sounds like a real mess, but when it is all put together it has given me the best thing in my life, him.

wefelinloveonline comment: Congrats on finally finding the courage to tell and admit the truth to your story :) That is really amazing and promotes falling in love online as a positive thing! The years you two have endured together is inspiring, and that’s so great you two are finally going to be together. Best of luck to you two in the future! Keep us updated if you like.

I apologize in advance for how long this story is… but our story DOES involve many years and much waiting. Even with as long as this is, much has been left untold. And our story still isn’t over…

I was introduced to the world of chatting online with people I didn’t know at an incredibly early age… age nine, in fact. I know that may seem too young to some, but my parents did set SOME restrictions… one of them being Parental Controls to automatically block certain websites, which was still in use when I was eleven years old.

During the summer of 2005 (age 11), my family and I went out of town to a relative’s house, where I gained access to an online forum of a certain fandom for the very first time; back at home, the forum was blocked by Parental Controls, but on my relative’s computer, I could go on any website I wanted. I enjoyed the forum and its members very much for the week I posted there, but then once it was time to go back home, where the forum was blocked by Parental Controls, I just didn’t really bother to ask my parents to unblock it, and soon mostly forgot about it.

Months later, towards the end in the year.. what in the world made me think of that forum again? What in the world prompted me to try to posting there again, to finally ask my parents to unblock it, after months of not thinking about it? I dunno, but that decision to return forever changed my life.

Now that I had permanently returned to the forum, I began making close online friends there. Although I never spoke to him, one of the members there - who I will refer to as “Taileh” (not his IRL name or actual username) - caught my interest because of how weird but intelligent he seemed. Everyone thought he was strange, but at the same time, very much respected him. He was cool, calm, and collected. Even though he seemed intimidating on the outside, he also had a silly and perverted side.

In January 2006 (age 12), Taileh and I became close friends. Due to AOL issues, I was never able to access the live chatroom that the everyone at the forum would go to, but it was during this month that someone there discovered the “drawing boards” - low-tech live chatrooms that would allow up to five people, and had a little Paint board you could draw pictures on and stuff with people. I was delighted to find a chatroom that actually worked on my internet browser.. but since everyone else preferred the main chatroom, I was one of of the only ones who used the drawing boards. However, the first day I used them, Taileh followed me in there. So, him and I were finally able to have a live conversation for the first time. Immediately we clicked… I felt like I could talk to him about anything. And so we grew to become close friends.

Since at the time, we did not have the same instant messenger programs (I only had AIM, and Taileh only had MSN and YIM), the drawing boards were our main method of communication. For months, whenever he saw me on the forum’s online list, he would send me a PM with a title of any single word that rhymed with “chat” - “Bat”, “Cat”, etc., and then the message itself would just say “Chat?”. We talked in the drawing boards so often and about such personal stuff, that the drawing board “regulars” (people outside of the forum) actually thought we were an item; someone once even went under Taileh’s name and said certain stuff about a different female regular to try to make me jealous (but I could tell it wasn’t actually Taileh). XDD But I assured everyone it wasn’t like that… I was 12, he was 20, I lived in the US, he lived over 4,000 miles away in Denmark, and it was impossible for me to fall for anybody online, anyways.

…Or so I thought.

After many months, starting in the summer of 2006, mine and Taileh’s drawing board days died away as we both just became busy with our own activities. We’d still maintain very close and friendly contact through the forum, though.. just not nearly as often.

Then something happened end of 2006 that I should’ve seen as the first warning sign.

A new 20-year-old woman joined the forum and ended up sticking around.. who I will simply dub as “R”. On a thread that Taileh started about certain personality types, him and R instantly clicked. The thread soon became just him and her replying back and forth, just immediately clicking in every single way that him and I did not. You could immediately tell he was taking an interest in her. And as for me.. well, although I never would’ve admitted it myself at the time, I was feeling jealous.

Time passed by, and Taileh and R continued to grow closer and closer. Soon February 2007 (age 13) arrived, and I received a pleasant surprise - Taileh had downloaded AIM! Finally, Taileh and I could now IM each other whenever we wanted! And so we did, continuing on with our close friendship. He was my far my best online friend, and the one person in the world (both IRL and online) that I could talk to about absolutely everything. But as the months went by, he grew closer and closer with R as well… much closer than he was with me. They never outright said anything about it, but I and everyone else at the forum very much suspected that there were some romantic feelings involved. My jealousy of R grew and grew… but I didn’t want to admit it to her or Taileh, let alone myself, since I was ashamed of such selfish feelings.

However, in April 2007, an incident happened, and I said something that made Taileh suspect what was up. He IMed me asking, “Are you jealous?”. With much difficulty, I confessed that although I liked her very much and considered her a good friend, I was jealous of R for her relationship with him. But since I knew how it would sound to know that a girl was jealous of another girl for her relationship with a guy, I also assured Taileh that it wasn’t because of any romantic feelings - it was because I thought of him as a father figure. He said he felt honored to have me as his “daughter”, and from then on out, him and I were closer than ever before.

…But today, I still wonder if that was actually true - if I actually thought of him as a father figure, or if I actually subconsciously already had romantic feelings for him. I knew that what I felt for him was stronger than what one feels for a close friend… I often wonder if I said I thought of him as a father figure rather than romantically simply because I was in denial and so firmly believed I could never fall for anyone online. I don’t know.

In August 2007, Taileh and R both went out of town (R lives in the US) to Germany, where they met up IRL for a week. When they both returned home, they posted a few photos of their trip on the forum. …And the romantic aspect of their relationship finally became “official” and confirmed to the whole forum. See, one of the photos that they posted was a photo of them kissing.

When I saw the photo of them kissing, my reaction was so emotional, that it was physical. I could feel the blood drain from my face. I wanted to look away, but at the same time, I couldn’t help staring at it. My stomach began to feel sick, and there was an unpleasant dull aching feeling throughout my whole body. I quickly scrolled away from the photo and didn’t glance at it again.

…If that wasn’t a sign that I already subconsciously romantically loved him at that point, then I don’t know what is.

But once again, I was in denial, and dismissed it as simple feelings of jealousy.. nothing to do with any romantic feelings at all.

After their return, their now-openly-romantic online relationship seemed to go well.. MORE than well. Taileh was head-over-heels in love with her. They seemed obsessed with each other. At some point, Taileh even confessed to me that he was planning on asking her to marry him. …But then things began to turn bad. Towards the very end of the year, due to certain issues, R couldn’t spend nearly as much time online as she used to. Things were happening that she wouldn’t fully articulate.

And then, starting in January 2008 (age 14), the dark days began. R began completely ignoring Taileh. She completely stopped posting in the forum, although she continued to post in her LiveJournal every day, sometimes even more than once a day. But even though she frequently posted on LiveJournal, she completely ignored all of Taileh’s e-mails and comments on her entries. He would beg and beg her to say ANYTHING to him, anything at all, to somehow let him know what was going on… but she wouldn’t. And so he sank into a pit of despair as his love continued to ignore him like this for half a year.

In July 2008, him and I AIMed for a very long time one night. He referred back to a LiveJournal entry I had posted in which I filled out a survery/meme where you had to list 20 people and then answer questions about those people. My #1 person was Taileh, and one of the questions was “Would you marry #1?”. Trying to make it as casual and light-hearted as possible, I chose my words carefully and answered “Well, if he ever asked, I wouldn’t say no XD”. This entry was posted MONTHS ago, but he remembered it… and he asked me if I truly meant what I said. I said yes, and asked why he was asking. He replied by talking about how he feared that R was going to leave him, and that if he ever fell, he wanted me to fall back on. I replied, “I’m standing here until you make me move.”

…That night’s conversation left me with an explosion of feelings. On one hand, I was being treated like a safety net - a back-up plan, a Plan B. But on the other hand.. I realized I wanted to be there for him. And what did he mean by that conversation, anyways? Was it possible that he could have romantic feelings for me?

But he was eight years older than me…

And lived all the way in Denmark…

And if my parents ever knew about such a possible thing, not only would they never let me talk to him, but they’d probably take my internet privileges away in general…

And if I ever wanted to meet him IRL, I’d probably have to wait four years, so that I’d be 18 years old, and living away from my parents in a college dorm.. older and more mature and independent..

And wait, oh my goodness, I was only 14.. why should I be thinking of marriage in a non-joking manner at all in the first place?! I was much too young…

And besides, it was impossible for me to fall for anybody online, right? Right…

But gosh darn it, I loved him so much.

And so from then on out, I consciously realized I had romantic feelings for him. I couldn’t stop thinking about him, couldn’t stop imagining walking by his side, him leaning down to kiss me. Oh, I was still in denial about it, of course.. I was so determined NOT to think about him, that of course the opposite happened and I dreamed about him every night for a week, and even puked at one point.

Then, later that same month, it finally happened - Taileh and R broke up. R had posted something in her LiveJournal that, although it didn’t outright state it, made it very obvious that she had no intentions on staying with Taileh any longer, but did not know how to dump him because she was afraid of hurting him. Taileh was absolutely devastated and depressed. Never before had I seen someone so incredibly crushed. I felt so incredibly worried about him, that it actually made me feel physically sick, which I mentioned in my own LiveJournal.

“A”, a very dear and close online friend of mine and Taileh’s, noticed the LiveJournal entry and IMed Taileh about it. She asked him if he thought I loved him. He said he didn’t know, and said she should ask me herself. And so she asked me… my original response was very TL;DR, but my most basic response was “I don’t know.” After I finished explaining everything to her, I made her promise NEVER to tell Taileh what I had told her …completely knowing that she had actually already told him. XD;;

But then Taileh and I began to AIM incredibly frequently. And the way he talked to me was.. different. We began to talk more.. flirty. Long story short, another close online friend “L” became involved… and both of us ended up confessing to her that we had feelings for the other. With her secret knowledge, L began giving Taileh hints that I liked him, and she began giving me hints that he liked me. It got to the point where basically both Taileh and I knew the other secretly liked us, but we kept beating around the bush and never bringing the issue out into the open… all the while A was acting very disapproving of the whole thing, since she felt that Taileh was simply trying to encourage me to like him.

Then on August 22nd, 2008, Taileh says to me out of the blue, “‘A’ says I shouldn’t try anything with you or hint at anything if I think you’re discardable.”

“Do you think I’m discardable?” I asked.

“No,” he replied. “But that maybe it shouldn’t be official yet.”

I replied that after thinking it through VEEERY thoroughly, that I was okay with it being official now, and that I could handle the long distance. He asked me when we could meet IRL. I replied that we’d have to wait four years to meet up IRL, so that I’d be 18 and living on my own in college with more independence.

And so the long wait began, with its fair share of ups and downs, just like any other romantic relationship.

We grew closer and closer, we sent actual real mail, we had our first times on webcam with each other, etc etc. As I progressed through high school, I avoided dating any guys (even though my best friend - a guy - developed strong feelings for me, and I even kinda subconsciously liked him back) because I was saving myself for Taileh. Even though both him and I are very touchy feely physically affectionate lovers, we’ve gotten through these years without even being able to hug each other during the tearful times. There was even a two-month period from mid-March to mid-May 2011 when Taileh and I had broken up, but after that dark period, he mailed me a package of an incredibly long handwritten letter, and we got back together.

Sooo many people have told us that it isn’t going to work out. They’ve told me that Taileh’s just a pedophile preying on me, that it won’t work out, that it isn’t really love. They’ve told Taileh that I’m just a young immature high school girl who’s going to go around flirting and get together with some high school boy behind his back, that it won’t work out, that it isn’t really love.

…They’re all wrong.

On the date that I am writing this, May 21st, 2012 (age 18), Taileh and I have been together for three years and nine months. That is three months shy of our estimated waiting time of four years.

I will be starting my freshman year of college this August. Taileh and I plan to meet up IRL this September, when he’ll be able to stay for a month or two while taking online classes, and then return back to Denmark to take his exams.

When I meet up with him IRL, I will talk to my parents over the phone all about him, and then since my college is in a different city but the same state, I will bring him home one weekend to formally introduce him to my parents in person.

Even once we’ve met up IRL for the first time, the long distance and college will still make our circumstances very difficult, but if we can overcome everything that we already have, I’m sure we can overcame ANYTHING. <3

The four year wait is almost over… it’s so close. He means the whole world to me, and I can’t wait to do something as simple as hold his hand. I want to spend the rest of my life with him. I love him. <3

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Wefellinloveonline comment: woooow.. I just wanted to say, your story is simply amazing. I have never heard anything like this before. Goes to show that true love is out there! & how strong you two are is absolutely unbelievable. It’s incredible you two have waited this long to meet in person! Feel free to update us once you two meet in September! Stay safe.. and pictures would be awesome if you could share them! :)