What do YOU think is BEST way to tell your parents how you met your significant other (SO) online?
Do you believe it is necessary to tell your parents how you and your SO met? Why or why not?
On the other hand,
If parents(s) are following this blog - what do you think?
I am now 22 and he is 29. We live together and are engaged, Im from Minnesota, He is from Kansas. Sorry for this story being so long. This covers a span of 7 years.
I still vaguely rember the first day we met online. We where both in a yahoo anime chatroom and (in a playful way) he sat on my head (like an anime cat or animal would do to an anime person). Because I let him roleplay sit on my head, he imed me. The first few months All we did was roleplay together. We never got to know each other until one night when I just wasnt feeling up to roleplaying. We got to know each other that night. I found out his name was George and he was 22. We talked and talked almost every night, I didn’t have a cell phone and neither did he, so we just waited for the other to get online every night and stayed up way too late talking.
After a whole summer of talking we realized we had feelings for each other. Well school came around and we where talking less and less. I got grounded from the computer for quite a bit (because of bad grades) and we lost contact. Well one night after I was finally allowed back on the computer he happened to IM me again. We continued talking for a few months.My parents found out, and didnt want me talking to a guy so much older than me. They took away all my computer free time. I would sneak off early to school to talk to him on the computers in the computer lab early in the morning. But eventually he lost his internet and my parents found out again. We where forced to stop talking completely.
It was years before we spoke again. I had fallen in love with him and He had fallen in love with me. Even though my heart was broken I still dated other people.My first real life boyfriend was when I was 17. But none of them really ever filled that hole in my heart. One night after I had broke up with my last boyfriend. I logged onto Yahoo messenger on my laptop. Not really looking for anyone. I was 19 years old.
then he IMed me. Asking if it was really me and if I remembered him. Of course. We caught up on what has been happening with each other. Then he told me he still had feelings for me. I told him I still liked him too but I didnt want to rush into any sort of relationship yet, I was still trying to get over the breakup and the death of my grandma all at the same time. He comforted me and understood.
But that didnt stop him from jokingly (but some what serious) asking me out every night. We talked for about 2 months before I finally said yes to him asking me out. November 8th 2010 is our anniversary.
We made plans to meet. I told him the best time would be in the spring when I had my tax returns so I could buy a bus ticket. I was living with my bestfriend at the time and had no job, in short I was a complete bum. He was taking care of his dying mother and couldnt leave her alone for too long.
We talked every night, got on webcam a few times together but everytime we saw each other we where too nervous to talk much. Finally May 31st 2011 I left for Kansas on bus. My bestfriend waving me off and telling me to be careful.
Yes, I left on my own, with out anyone but my best friend knowing, and by myself. I would have done things differently had it been anyone else, but we had been talking on and off since I was 15 years old so I trusted him pretty well.
I remeber arriving in Kansas, my heart was pounding it was very hot out but I was hiding myself in a black hoodie and sitting on my bag with my knees to my chest.
Then he appeared around the corner and i thought my heart stopped.
He asked me if I was Jennifer, I said yes. He told me he was George. He walked me to his car and drove to McDonalds. Where he had a soda and I had a chocolate milkshake. We where both too nervous to talk much. But after his nerves had calmed down a bit he brought me to his house where he lived with his mother. We sat in his room and watched a movie, but I still couldnt get over how nervous I was.
We walked together to a park afterwards, and he told me I was alot prettier in real life, just alot shorter then he expected. (Im 5’2” he is 6’1”) Things just went from there, we slowly got more comfortable with each other. I liked his mother she was nice. Before I knew it a month had passed In Kansas, and my parents hadnt heard or seen me in a month.
I decided to make the call, told them I had went to Kansas to meet a guy, that I was safe, and if I wanted to come back at anytime he would pay for my ticket back. They where worried but basically told me I was an adult and I could make my own descions. Just told me to keep in contact with them. To make them feel better I called them once a week so they knew I was ok.
I ended up never leaving, His mother passed away in August. I wanted to be there for him to comfort him. But we where faced with the descion to move to Minnesota(where I am from) or Missouri (thats where his family is) We decided to move to Missouri. I got a job and we got an apartment together.
On February 14th 2013 he propsed to me. We had talked about marriage before and he had told me he wanted to marry me but it was never offical offical until now.
We now are renting a nice house from his dad and planning our wedding and our future together. It was a long journey to where we are now. But I couldnt be happier.
this was taken christmas 2012
Wefellinloveonline comment:
This is absolutely amazing. Wow. I have no words. My jaw was wide open while reading your story! haha This is incredibly inspiring.. almost like a dream come true. Or a love story from out of a Hollywood film :). Thank you so much for sharing with all of us <3 The success you two have experienced is amazing and is “meant to be” (as cheesy as that sounds haha) :). it’s so beautiful! The love you two share together is truly beautiful. I wish a forever happy and fulfilling future to both of you. This is once again another story that proves how real an online relationship is, and how much it can grow and develop after meeting in person. Feel free to share wedding photos with us if you like :D, all the best :)
Let me know what you guys think.
No resources were needed, just wrote it up myself.
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I’ll be working on the “meeting the parents via skype” page for a bit as well :)
I’m going to work on the “Meeting Parents via Skype” page today.
It’s crazy to see that there is barely any research on this!! I’ve found maybe a few posts through Google, but that’s it. I highly doubt there is much in academic libraries either.
I’m going to keep researching and write the page up :) If any one has any suggestions for the page, please send it to my ask!
Documentary:
Would you be interested in a page on this blog called “meeting parents via Skype” ? Do you think it would be helpful? What would you like to see on the page? Would you like me to tag stuff I reblog, or do you want me to write up the page?
We’ve come such a long way so far! Thank you so much for following <3 We’re spreading more positive awareness about online relationships, and I know we’ll continue to do so!
Feel free to promote this blog in any way possible :) More followers = more stories, more support, more advice, more facts, and less negative perspectives towards online relationships!!
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Online relationship advice, stories, and support!
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Harvard Students Take Dating to the Internet
This was recently published (February 2013), so a lot of the research is up to date! & it’s really interesting.. I had no idea Harvard students were online dating a lot.
His flight was suppose to arrive at 7:30pm, but what I didn’t know is that my best friend and Ryan were planning on surprising me his flight actually landed at 2pm. I was getting ready and my friend said she had to go to the restroom and when she came back she was recording me, I was so confused then I saw Ryan hiding in the supply closet. I was in my pajamas, no make up, and frizzy hair and that is how we first met. Oh and while he was looking for my dorm building he hit is nose on a branch and had cuts all over his face when we first met, it was a bloody mess. That’s why he’s holding his nose.
Wefellinloveonline comment:
AHHHH that is beyond amazing!!! and hilarious!! and adorable hahaha thank you so much for sharing, and I’m so glad you two finally met!! :) <3
When is it not real life? Only when you are not living.
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hey there! i’m amanda, better known as the panda on me and my girlfriend’s shared tumblr: thepandathegiraffe. her name is jessica.
we met online about 3 years ago on a forum she was running and became fast friends. we IMed, texted, skyped and messaged on Facebook. i didn’t realize there was such an age gap between us at first because we had so much in common. like down to home life, likes/dislikes, etc. it was crazy. (just so you know, i’m currently 24 and she’s 18 next month.)
anyway we spent that year hanging out and sharing everything really. she was a really great long distance friend.. like a pen pal, almost. in august of 2011 we started talking more regularly (like, daily). and in september, she went to pride with her friends in vegas and i went to a gay club in delaware with my friends. and i got drunk, ha, and made out with some girl and immediately told her about it. she made a comment like “i wish i couldn’t made out with someone here.” and i said “psh, i would’ve made out with you!” and she said “really?” and i said “of course!” haha and pretty much the rest is history.
we spent the next month texting nonstop and spending hours each night on the phone talking about everything and anything at all. on skype on october 12, 2011, jess asked me to be her girlfriend. and that’s what we’ve been ever since. i met her for the first time in december 2011, and visited again in june and november. we’ve only spent about 3.5 weeks together in person, but this june we’ll be spending about 40 days solid together and couldn’t be more excited. she’s coming to stay at my apartment in new jersey!
we’re trying to make plans to move closer to one another soon, but we have a lot to get through before we can make it happen. keep your fingers crossed for us. :)
anyway, we keep our tumblr updated with stuff about us - we also answer questions and share other peoples’ stories.. so we encourage you to come tell your story to us!
also!! this summer we’re going to be in new york city for pride 2013 and would love to meet some of our tumblr friends!! drop us an ask or shoot us an e-mail for more information.
thanks for reading! xoxo the panda
Since most online relationships are long distance relationships as well, how do you save money to visit your SO?
That plane ticket, train ticket, bus ticket, or whatever it may be is so important in LDRs and online relationships.
Share your tips, tricks, everything! This will help SOs see each other sooner :)
Share your thoughts and ideas!!
How do my followers cope with missing their SOs? :) Do you have certain strategies or things that you do that help a lot?
I’m sure this would help a ton of LDR/online relationship couples!
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